Ten years ago, I saw Joshua Bell at the Wigmore Hall in London when my violin teacher Mark was playing the bassoon in a quintet with him. I know, it's all very confusing. Along the way, I got lost, and talked to a friendly-looking man, Oliver, asking him if he could tell me where the Wigmore Hall was. Turns out, he was going there too, and we became instant friends, even more so when he stepped in a puddle and splashed my shoes. Or maybe I splashed him. I forget, but I remember someone had splashed someone else. There was definitely splashing involved.
Oliver and I exchanged numbers, and met up several times within the next few weeks, and he became one of my bestest friends. After the concert, I went to Wagamama's with Mark, and sat across the table from Joshua Bell, and watched him slurp noodles. I've never seen someone look so good while they slurp udon.
So fast forward six years, and Oliver is in Santa Monica visiting his cousin, and I'm supposed to go see him, but something happens and I lame-flake-out on him. I think I was tired, or something equally inexcusable. Oliver and I stop facebooking, and stop chatting, and that's just it. We both feel weird, and I feel ashamed, and as far as we're both concerned, that's it, friendship over.
Today I posted on facebook that I'm going to see Joshua Bell tonight at the Hollywood Bowl, and how it's crazy that it was 10 years ago that I first saw him when Mark was playing, and that's the night I met Oliver. Not three minutes later, an IM comes up from Oliver, and he's apologizing, and I'm apologizing, and we're both apologizing, and before you know it, we've set up a time to skype this weekend. We're each going to have a glass of wine, and pretend that we're in a wine bar in London (he's in Thailand now, and I'm in California), and we're going to have a good old-fashioned gossip.
I'm so excited. Yay for fabulous facebook posts. And Yay for Joshua Bell being the restorer of friendships. I had to email him to tell him about the byproduct of his musical career. I hope it makes him smile.